Monday, February 20, 2017

Time Out for Mommy

I'm sure everyone's noticed that I'm blogging again after several months of silence. What brought this about?

I have more time.

Where did this time come from?

I'm taking 3 months off of work, which is doing daycare, which adds two toddlers to my 4 girls.

I had no choice.

You've seen last October's post on my mail overload. Well, I never caught up. Until now. The mail is now all caught up.

However, there is a TON more paperwork that needs to be done. Taxes, for one, and a multitude of other paperwork pertaining to the girls' medical, therapy, and programs for the disabled, etc......

It all HAS to get done. No choice. And I couldn't get it done with 6 kids underfoot every day. By the time the weekends hit, I'd be trying to catch up on housework, grocery shopping, fuelling the minivan, yard work, pet care, etc.... Add in there lately, holidays and birthdays and you can imagine that this single mama was more than overworked. I was burning out and my brain was fried!

I've been free of my more difficult daycare child for a week and my other one since last Thursday and it's made a HUGE difference. I can't believe how much I've already gotten done and gotten it done without completely exhausting myself.

Thursday, February 16, 2017

Jie Jie's Milestone

Without having done regular updates on each of the girls, I forgot to record an important milestone. Some might not think this is one, but to us it's a pretty big one. Jie Jie finally grew tall enough and heavy enough to graduate from her booster carseat at the age of 12.5 years old! This happened last September. Technically, she can use it until she is 80 or 100 pounds, I can't remember which, but she was psychologically ready to be out of it, too.

Some parents may have gone with the age rule, but with Jie Jie's spinal anomalies and other physical issues, it was safer that she stay in the carseat. It was a Britax with a 5-point harness system that fastened with LATCH or the car's seatbelt through it securely. I'd never use a booster that relied only on the seatbelt to hold the child and seat in place, I've read too many reports of the seat, with the child in it, being ejected from the car during an accident.

Soon, Apple will use this seat, but at 5 years old and only 32 pounds, she's still in a Britax that goes from infancy to 40 pounds and the only reason I'm switching her is that it's be used to it's max factory lifespan. I didn't even turn her forward facing until she was 3 1/2 years old.

Fun at Speech Therapy

My speech therapy girls. Going on three+ years of it now.

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Happy 13th Birthday, Jie Jie!

Jie Jie turned 13 today, but the fun began yesterday on Valentine's Day when the girls from church came by and "Heart Attacked" her by leaving a trail of paper hearts all over the front yard. Jie Jie followed the heart path and found all the girls hiding, then they came in and had cupcakes.

Tonight, it was dinner with "the gang" then to My Firefighter's house for birthday cake. Jie Jie got the best of both worlds by having a little celebrating with a lot of people, then some celebrating with those really close to her. She helped make her birthday cake, something she wanted to do, so we made an "animal-free" cake which is a very delicious vegan pumpkin cake.

Jie Jie's Heart 4 Heart doll, who she named July, needed winter clothes. Jie Jie kept hinting this at Christmas, but I'd already sewn and shopped for Christmas before she dropped all the hints. So, every night for a week I'd sneak in (or so I thought) and take the doll and make her something. But, turns out, Jie Jie heard me and checked July's position in bed in the morning and saw she'd been moved. Jie Jie said, "I hoped that was what you were doing!" Meaning, she hoped I was sewing things for July.

This cute little guy is about 7 weeks old. We watched him grow in his mommy's tummy from the start. It was a great experience for them as adopted kids to watch that process up close. He's not much bigger than her doll, Bao Bao!

Tuesday, February 14, 2017


The girls have been attending an amazing all-inclusive sport center I've mentioned before, for just over a year now. It was conceived by a woman who was a competitive gymnast and had a sister with Down Syndrome. She didn't want her sister to miss out on anything so she began teaching gymnastics in her backyard to all the kids in the neighborhood and now, after much effort, has this amazing place. It offers more than I can list: martial arts, archery, ping pong, all kinds of dance, arial ribbon, swimming, veteran's programs, programs to help those who have been paralyzed learn to walk again in case science catches up to their needs, community outreach homework help, and other grant programs such as Fast Forward, which the girls also participate in.

All classes are grouped by age, not ability, and there are plenty of coaches to help everyone. While one child might be a monkey on the bars, another child, such as mine who can grip a bar due to hand deformities, is helped to do whatever they can on the bar, even if it's swinging by the legs. There are kids with missing limbs doing flips, with and without prosthetics. Kids in wheelchairs doing all kinds of things, too. This place is amazing. Every city should have one. Every sport is accessible to anyone and everyone regardless of ability to pay, walk, stand, talk - no matter what.

Anyway, before the Christmas break, the kids spent an entire class learning a little routine to put on for the parents and these pictures came from that practice.

Apple's 5th Birthday Part 6: The Finale

December 1st is Apple's actual birthday and that's when her main present from me arrived. I'd told her the night before that something was going to come in the mail so she was looking forward to it all day. I was excited myself and hoped she'd really love it. I'd been disappointed that it hadn't arrived as scheduled the day before in time for the party, but it worked out well by prolonging the feeling of anticipation.

It's too heavy!

Another baby doll! Baby Calin got a sister.

It's no secret that I love dolls and always have. I think there's such thing as a "doll gene" because my paternal grandmother had it. I think it's connected to the "love rollerskating gene" because I shared that with her, too. I'd been hoping that I'd have a daughter who shared a love of dolls with me and I'm lucky enough that 2 out of 4 do.

The named the new doll Bella and she is an Adora doll, 15" long and weighted to feel more like a real baby. She is precious, her fingernails and toenails exquisitely detailed and her face is super sweet and cute. Baby Calin, which is very recognizable in the Chinese adoption community is a Carolle doll and she's only about 12" tall and has a tiny rosebud mouth. I noticed Apple loved her Baby Calin, but played "twins" with the dolls that are in my daycare toy stash, both of which have open mouths. Over the many years I've worked with children, I've come to realize that the dolls that get played with the most look like real babies (not cartoons or aliens), have soft bodies and open mouths because the thing kids like to do most with the baby dolls is feed them. I'd bought Baby Calin before I realized this, very soon after my dossier was logged in back in April 2007. I didn't adopt Jie Jie until 2011 and she was too old for Calin. I gave her a life-sized Berenguer doll instead, which she still loves and dotes on to this day.

Within hours, Apple fell in love with Bella. It really peeved me when, after just 3 days, the doll started falling apart! She lost an eyelash and the arm was tearing at the joint. For the price I'd paid, this shouldn't have happened, but I had read the reviews and it had been mentioned. I'll post later about the heroics taken to ensure Bella's longevity.

New floor puzzle - done!

Apple's 5th Birthday Part 5: Sisters Turn

All birthday girls, past and future, were also included in the festivities. Everyone was so generous and loving toward the girls. They are the youngest in the set. In fact, the first grandbabies have arrived for a couple of these friends.

Apple's 5th Birthday Part 4: Presents

Her favorites were the doll feeding kit I gave her in the photo above and this tea set.
Even now, these get played with every day.