Monday, March 28, 2011
Mother & Daughter Finally Together!
I don't know what to say because there is so much! Jei Jei is WONDERFUL! We were the only ones in the room and I was doing paperwork when we heard her arrive. I stood up and headed toward the door and she walked right in, said, "Mama," and walked right into my arms. She was then more curious about where she was than who she was with. She's quite curious and fearless and I then got her attention by showing her the things in her backpack. I was then distracted by paperwork and things were going fast and all I wanted to do was to pay attention to her, but she was fine exploring. Before I knew it, I was leaving and she was in my arms! All smiles, no crying, definitely knowing I was her mama and the main person she should be with. On her own, she shared her food with me, putting it into my mouth and letting me put food into her mouth. Later, I could see that she didn't really want me to rub her back, but all other touching was fine. By the end of the day, rubbing her back seemed fine, too.
I ended up bathing her and she was very glad. She couldn't get into the water fast enough and proceeded to wash herself well after I washed her. I put her innermost layer on that she came wearing since they were clean and comfortable jammies and had the scent of familiarity, but I think all her clothes are new.
When we went back to the civil office to complete the paperwork in the afternoon, she got a look on her face while we were in the elevator that made me think she was scared and I realized no one had told her what we were going back there for. I had the guide explain quickly. It was the only time she drew away from me and sort of checked out, but once she understood what was going to happen, she was fine again.
We ate dinner out with the Straights and the food was delicious and inexpensive even though the restaurant was a fancier one. We had a room to dine by ourselves. My girl ate and ate. She needs a therapy done and when I went to do it, she cried - hard - and I could tell she was crying for her Po Po. I decided to skip the therapy for that time because she was so tired and it was too personal and wrestling her to do it would be very damaging to our relationship.
We are going to the orphanage today. It means another really long day for my daughter, but we cannot pass up this opportunity. It's a three hour drive each way.
She is VERY small. Forget the new measurements. Forget the old measurements. She is 102.5 cm tall in bare feet, but solid. She is healthy but there are two things that need to be addressed medically that were not in her file. One was a strong possibility so I'm not surprised, but the other is the possibility of minor club feet. Her feet could have developed that way due to her gait; I'll find out after we're home and get evaluations done. She runs, jumps, skips, dances.
She LOVES to sing!!! If I start to sing to her, she joins right in. She's very smart and has learned parts of songs I've sung already. She will learn English in a jiffy. I am super glad for the trampolines I have at home. She is a major jumper on the bed girl, something I'm discouraging because I want to start as we intend to go on (to a degree) and I don't want to deal with a cracked head and stitches in China.
I need to go because she's been awake for a bit and I hate being on the computer when she's right here. She's already told me today that I'm mama hao, a good mama! I'll caption the photos later...