Saturday, May 31, 2014
I appreciate the suggestions of a different approach by the commenters in my previous post. I've been studying my child closely since reading them, trying to see if this could be it, hoping it could be it, but, with all her other issues, I'm very sure this isn't the case.
She does speak English in statements well enough to be understood by anyone and she talks non-stop, morning until night, so she's a pro at conversation. Her questions are phrased more in keeping with Chinese grammar, but I recognize that and know it's normal. This is a child with a cognitive disability for sure. What I'm discovering is that her that her disability is more broad, affecting more areas, than I thought. We've started the testing and there's more to come, but it's glaringly apparent. What I do think, though, is that she might have been born perfectly healthy, or with what would have amounted to a tiny learning disorder that she could have worked through in a loving home with parental support, but that the institutional environment, neglect, poor nutrition, and abuse, made it far more serious as neuro pathways just didn't develop, and high stress cortisol levels caused the brain to physically form differently, all of which is well-documented in adoption literature.
There is so much about her that isn't appropriate to share on this blog. Astonishing things. It's all adding up.
There is good news, though. She has learned a lot since I've had her and she's continuing to learn. Progress is being made, however slowly. I think that with a greater, more specific understanding of her current level of function and disabilities, and her learning style, I can better tailor her lessons and the way I interact with her to decrease frustration and increase the enjoyment of learning and add services that she may benefit from.
Like all parents, I want what is best for my daughter. Many parents can attest that it's like wading through a sea of desperation seeking answers, when we can't figure out what's going on with our children and their first 11.75 years is a mystery never to be unraveled. I still cannot find out exactly how many years of school my daughter has had, and at what level.
Please keep the positive suggestions and comments coming! I've learned so much from many of you in the online community. You are a valuable resource and an important part of my "village." I truly believe the old saying that it takes a village to raise a child.