Thank you for your support, Anonymous. And thank you for your perfect example of how much doesn't make it into my blog.
Blossom's hair. Yes, it's short. It needs to be, for her sake. Jo, you ASSUME that the haircut was to meet MY standards. You are very wrong. It was to make it easy for Blossom to keep herself clean and neat, especially in weather that commonly soars over 100 degrees all summer long.
So, here's the perfect example of what doesn't make it on to the blog...
I didn't start with the haircut that Blossom currently has. I gave her a cute, stylish wedge that everyone, including Blossom, loved. It was a little longer and she looked great. The problem was that it always fell into her eyes from the back. She doesn't have the instinct to push it out of her face or swing her head so it falls back. The result was that it was always in her eyes and across her face and looked like a mop. I cut it shorter and shorter until it no longer fell into her eyes and she was happy.
But see, everyone assumes that I just hacked it all off. And frankly, even if I had, that's my decision between Blossom and myself.
Then, last May, I figured perhaps a salon might have some better ideas so off we went. What a disaster! I won't even put the pictures up because the haircut is soooo bad that Blossom is crying in them. I fixed it and it was back to the old style.
My blog is not a place to justify my decisions, but to share the reality of raising my daughters with others in the adoption community.
Blossom has many issues just from being in an orphanage.
She has many issues due to the abuses she suffered there.
She has some issues due to being relinquished by her birth parents and her first family, who cared enough to bring her here even when they knew in China that they couldn't parent her. That took guts!
She also has a congenital birth defect - a cognitive one - and was in special ed in China. We all know that when our children first come home, it can be hard to discern what issues are due to what and which ones are orphanage delays and which ones are cognitive delays. Blossom's cognitive delays are significant. She can't reason, she has great difficulty learning anything and everything, but she CAN learn.
I'm not going to cover up our difficulties. If readers want roses and sunshine, read some other blog. I'm keeping it real here, but not sharing all. That would be impossible and inappropriate. Blossom is MY DAUGHTER AND I LOVE HER.
Commenters are welcome to leave supportive, positive comments and advice, but from now on, any comments as ridiculous as telling me I should give up my child or judging me when one isn't in complete knowledge of the facts will simply be deleted without explanation or acknowledgement.